
Weeping Creates Healing
I remember those moments vividly those raw, unspoken cries when words failed me, and all I could do was weep. To the outside world, it may have looked like weakness, but let me tell you, weeping creates healing.
As a mother in this posture, it’s hard. It’s overwhelming. And unless you’ve ever felt this kind of pain, I ask you to hold your assumptions. Instead of judging, take a step back, pray, and be a community for her or for them.
There are times when you can’t see God clearly. When the storm feels too heavy, and you’re questioning if He’s really there. Is He truly the anchor He promises to be? In those moments, I’ve learned to lay hands on my own body and speak directly to the emotions I feel. Raw and real with the Lord.
It’s Okay to Not Be Okay
Self-awareness begins with acknowledging what you’re experiencing. It’s okay to feel hurt, broken, and unsure. I’ve been there. Have you ever walked down a grocery aisle, only to be triggered by a scent a smell that takes you back to someone who broke your heart? You freeze, unsure whether to turn down another aisle or keep going.
Let me tell you, Beautiful: you keep walking. That aisle is just a storm, and storms pass.
Healing Through Awareness
Healing isn’t about avoiding the pain. It’s about walking through it with God at the center. Here's what I’ve learned:
Self-Awareness: Identify your emotions. Name them. Own them.
Embrace the Pain: Sit in it for a moment. Process it.
Trust God: Even when it’s hard to feel His presence, trust that He is working in you and through you.
If you need to fold, fold with a trusted person. It’s okay to lean on someone when the weight feels too heavy. Healing is a process not a one-and-done experience.
When You’re Healing for Yourself and Your Children
As mothers, healing comes with an added layer. Just when you feel like you’re moving forward, your children may still be processing the pain differently. Their journey looks different from yours, and that’s okay. Give yourself grace, and give them grace too.
Healing is messy. It’s tough. But through it all, we’re reminded that we don’t have to do it alone.
Tools for Healing
Here’s what has helped me along the way:
Prayer: Let your cries be your prayers. God hears every one of them.
Journaling: Write it all out the good, the bad, and the broken.
Self-Care: Take moments to nurture yourself, even if it’s just 5 minutes.
Therapy: A safe space to process emotions is invaluable.
Community: Surround yourself with women who will uplift and support you.
You Are a Champion
Listen, healing isn’t linear. It’s not perfect. But every day, you’re moving closer to wholeness for yourself, for your children, and for God.
You are a champion. Even when it feels like you’re breaking, God is holding you together.
So keep your eyes on Him. Keep healing.
For me. For my daughters. For Him.
With love and grace,
Nyteisha Nicole
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